At a recent gathering of young men at Kajiado East Technical & Vocational College during the Valentine’s Gents’ Conference, I posed a simple but unsettling question: “Is it harder to be a man today than it was 50 years ago?” The responses were mixed. But what lingered longer than the answers was the silence that… Continue reading Standing Out as a Man in an Increasingly Complex Society – by Desmond Otwoma

In my previous post, Humane Leaders Are Destiny Shapers, I honored leaders who directly shaped my career as line managers. This post is for the ones who may not have managed me directly yet stood as active armor-bearers along my leadership path. Today, I give them their flowers 🌸. George the Toddler 👶Meet Madam Rowena… Continue reading Humane Leaders Are Destiny Shapers 🌟 | Part 2

In my IT career spanning 24+ years, I’ve been privileged to have leaders who shaped me into the leader I am becoming. One commitment I’ve made for 2026 is simple but powerful: “Give people their flowers 🌸- don’t wait until it’s too late.” Over these 24 years, I’ve changed companies and roles, and along the… Continue reading Humane Leaders are Destiny Shapers 🌟

Justo’s deception had gone on for far too long. He had kept his identity hidden from Jasmine, convincing her he was a native South African. His mother was originally Zambian, of Chokwe origin, and his father, a notorious fugitive from Zimbabwe, had grown up immersed in the dangerous world of contraband trafficking. Justo’s father had… Continue reading In Love with a junkie – Part III

The meeting between Jasmine and Justo was electric. Jasmine arrived at the Emirates Lounge in Dubai en route to New York, intending to grab a hot meal and sleep on her connecting flight. However, fate had other plans and the only available seat was opposite a stylish gentleman, Justo. Initially uninterested, they struck up a… Continue reading In Love with a junkie – Part II

Love is a complex and powerful emotion that can bring people together, but it can also lead them down dark and difficult paths. When a girl falls in love with a boyfriend who is addicted to drugs, it can be a challenging and heart-wrenching experience for both. Opioid addiction is a serious and widespread problem… Continue reading I am in Love with a junkie – Part I

I bumped into this post doing rounds on social media. I got intrigued by some of the harsh realities in it. I felt another man, another soul, could use some of the nuggets. I have adapted it for brevity and clarity. All credit to the original author (unknown to me). Let’s talk about matters of… Continue reading Men: Let us Talk about Healthy Living